In our society, it is almost as if once a woman reaches forty, she has now passed some mystical pre-expiration date code and can no longer remain on the prominent shelves, but rather be moved to the back of the store onto that little discount shelf. You know the one, often sought out by those who are desperate or willing to take a risk on something past its prime.
Take the movie industry, where they tend to pigeon-hole women over a certain age. Actresses in their forties play the supporting mother role, rather than the vibrant and sexy lead. And yet, they will often pair an older male actor with a young twenty-something actress as a love interest? I am not talking about movies that deliberately make a statement about age difference. I am referring to the unapologetic pairings, such as the 39-year age difference between the lead actors of Entrapment.
Then, there is the plastic surgery trend. At the White Water center this past summer, I was placed in a rafting group with a woman who had so much work and botox that her face looked like the Tim Burton version of the Joker, less the garish makeup. I had to avoid looking at her until I could be sure that my incredulity would not show on my face. She turned out to be a sweet woman after all, but I still could not fathom why she felt that making her face look like a Fright Night creature feature was better than showing a hint of her age.
Don't get me wrong . . . I am not anti-enhancement AT ALL. Ladies, if a little lift, tuck, or laser can enhance your confidence, then I say go for it! However, once you cross that line into Frankenstein's wonderland to avoid mother-nature, I feel like you are doing yourself quite a disservice. (The same goes for you gents who fall into this trap, as well.)
It's not just Hollywood. Take a moment to think about this . . . how many gal pals do you have that turn "29 and holding!" each year on their birthday? How about the femme fatale who goes in to a mild depression with each milestone birthday, lamenting her youth passing her by? Or how about your former go-to fun pal whose biggest adventure is now trying some amazing new fabric softener, as if now that he/she is fortyish, it is time to chill and consider what kind of welcome reception to throw for the grim reaper. Any of these sound familiar?
Well, here and now, I am calling BULLSHIT! I refuse to be relegated to the back corner! My expiration date is a long way off and there are many prominent shelves upon which I demand to be displayed!!! Wait, I think I've taken this grocery analogy too far . . .
My point is that approaching or passing forty is not a limiting factor. Let's stop this nonsense and embrace our age and experience and dare anyone to hold us back.
I am not afraid to say it . . . I am 39 years old, soon to be 40!!! I am fabulous! Are you?




